Day 14 - Almost forgot to post

My back over last few days has gotten worse and worse. I also did not want to get up and have ended up struggling to get to sleep.

Other than babysteps of the previous days and my cross stitching and reading I have done nothing extra though other than todays very easy step.

Day 14 is to read flylady essay on using your calander. Ideal timing as last week I had ordered a calander for when at partners house.

Thankfully it as a reading exercise as more practical actions were goin to be skipped. It's getting harder to stay positive with not feeling great.

At least my room is mainly done except some decluttering and organising.

Keep fingers crossed can get to sleep quick as really want to keep trying to get up in the morning.

Day 13 - Getting there

I woke feeling groggy and nearly decided to go back to sleep but I'm trying to get up earlier not later and was already 10am.

So I got myself up and took my painkillers I wasnt able to move and get dressed yet. Instead I got into my emails and went through and deleted some. I also checked my planner for the day and noted few things wanted done.

When able I got up and dressed to shoes, made the bed, opened the curtains, swish and swiped bathroom, cleared off hotspot and done 5 minute room rescue.

Was time for eating breakfast which was also a good reason for a much needed break.

I then started game with my flybabies group so could get stuff done most of it routines. I then done another in another group I was just goin to call but I decided might as well get stuff done.

Cleared off and organised desk, put out rubbish, shined the sink, decluttered paperwork from 2 folders, combined paperwork to less folders, wiped toastie maker, sorted stuff to be donated that was lying about, put away dry washing and sorted my clothes for tomorrow.

I also done todays babystep. Today was to complete one of the flylady missions. For little background every weekday flylady has a mission to do in the current zone. Todays was to scrub the bathroom shelf and shine the bathroom sink.

I didnt think it looked that bad and nearly skipped it but thought I might as well. After i could see difference and felt so pleased i had done it.

I also managed to get some cross stitch done in the middle of the 2 games. I also listened to audiobooks even finishing one.

Just had my dinner and my list is complete. It's the weekend now and I plan on heading to bed now with a book and tv on so can relax I am incredibly sore and want to make sure I am fit for my routines tomorrow!

Day 12 - Too Tired

I slept so terribly last night and mood plummeted. I was going home today so I knew being dressed to shoes was a requirement.

So was clearing hotspot beside my bed and room rescue to pack up my stuff.

I spent time on the computer decluttered some files and I also done todays babystep. Day 12 was too delete all the flylady emails.

I have done only the basic baby steps today as well as my cross stitch and a little reading. I still have my sink to shine but I need an early night. Sink may need to wait. I will let you know tomorrow.

Day 11 - anti procrastination

Today I was so tired and so sore I am now exhausted so this will be short. I got all my babysteps done including new step. Day 11 is to start an inspirational page in put control journal.

My first one and main one is you can do anything for 15 minutes. It's on my page in my folder. I also asked for others from other flybabies. I will go through them and select favourites tomorrow.

Flylady has Wednesday as anti procrastination day. The one thing I have been missing off my list is my craft time. Cross stitch keeps getting put to back of list so today it was my only focus.

I knew couldnt clean all day way I was feeling but I did manage to stitch.

I also go to bed with shiny sink. All and all I did well today.

Day 10 - Another one Bites the dust

So yesterday made great difference reminding self to go slow and steady. When I woke this morning papa had cancelled on me and nearly threw me into a giving up spin. He was goin to take me to get rid of some of the stuff for donation and trash.

Instead I got myself up, dressed to shoes and stripped the bed, swish and swiped bathroom, cleared hotspot beside my best and done a 5 minute room rescue.

Soon as went down stairs I took the laundry down and put it on. I was sore so sat down for a bit then had breakfast then got straight to shining my sink as it wasn't done last night.

Was then in need of a break. I also needed some stuff from shop. So I put dinner in slow cooker and went to shop and pub with partner. Non alcoholic stuff for me as doing Sober for October!

My anxiety was high and money low as well as being sore so didnt stay long. The walk back was slow and needed to sit for a while.

Someone wanted a game though so I thought I'd just call but instead I played along putting half as decluttering folders of paperwork so I could sit and do it.

I managed to get 3 folders decluttered! Plus the dry washing put away, the washing from this morning in the dryer, lay clothes out for tomorrow and the fresh bedding put on the bed

Thankfully was then time for dinner. My and Glyn decided to watch a film with dinner then an early night. First though got my sink shined and done todays babystep.

Day 10 was to spend 15 minutes gathering things for trash and putting it out. Plenty of things lying about and the paperwork from earlier.

Now I'm just writing this, going through emails and my planner (done this morning too) then going to bed with my book.

Everything on my list apart from cross stitch was done as I changed that for the pub visit. So an all round win. Day 11 here we come.

Day 9 slow and steady

So I'm sorry this was late I wrote it during day and saved so could update later then forgot but heres how day 9 went for me.

I definitely overdone things yesterday I am in so much pain this morning I can only think of staying in bed. I will say one thing though my sink will be shiny when I do get up!

Thankfully I am suppose to visit my papa and get few bits from him to help decorate glyns but mainly a tv for the bedroom. Old one definitely going to stop.

So slowly I get up and start my first task, get dressed to shoes. Need to remember to take one step at a time. After I'm ready I open curtains and attempt to make bed it's no where near perfect as i cant lift and shake it. Really I'm just pulling the edges about.
But its progress not perfection we are looking for. I then clear my hotspot beside the bed.

Papa feeds me and we chat briefly before the car is loaded. My new fitbit strips have arrived. Not sure why I got one though already know I'm not fit. When get back to Glyns soon realise it's the wrong stand for the tv. Me and Glyn try and steady it on unit and make make shift stand.

Its holding. I dust off the tv unit. Wipe out the DVD and sky box section and sky box. We decide to get rid of the dvd recorder it doesn't play them anymore. And search room for old remotes and the dud batteries that get thrown in drawer.

I then decide to wipe out the 2 empty drawers underneath it (they were decluttered couple weeks ago) and to go find socks. A few were already paired but most sitting in a pile to be sorted. So I sorted some (not all, but still something) and put them all in top drawer. In the second I put the few bits of nightware I keep here. These things have always just been thrown wherever we can be squeezed in.

For me its cleared a lot of my bottom drawer. I decide that's where I will place my clothes for next day. Which I sort while I'm here.

Next I sort out reading my emails and planner, filling in my menu plan board and filling in the new calander I bought. This isn't the flylady one unfortunately I could never afford at moment with shipping etc. It is similar though it's called do it all calander and comes with some stickers.

I can't move anymore and me and Glyn decide to watch some DVDs. He sorts dinner for me and we just relax before bed.

I read but I haven't cross stitched and I haven't shined my sink. I did however get todays babystep in.

Day 9 was to read the decluttering essay on the website and to add 5 minute room rescue. After today you add 15 minutes decluttering to your schedule. Though I have been trying go do that anyway. Room rescue is bit like hotspots it's doing 5 minutes to make the room look better.

I chose the bathroom as there was clothes lying in there and the towel was knocked over. Couple things on the shelf that shouldn't be.

So even though the day was hard and painful. As well as the fact I didn't get everything on my list. I still made progress. I need to remember to not be hard on myself. I'm trying to imagine if my thoughts were someone else what I would say to them. Its helping.

Slow and steady wins the race.

Day 8 - I have over done it

My motivation still high this morning even though I was awake a lot during the night and up way before my normal time. Glyn going out again this afternoon so I know I want to try tackle some of the jobs not got to.

So up i get and dressed to the shoes, make bed, open curtains, swish and swipe the bathroom and put away the clothes from yesterday. I come down to find washer is already going such a welcome surprise and my breakfast made for me.

I took my time for myself and spent hour n a bit cross stitching. During that time I was thinking of my list.

Probably bit to much and I never got it finished but I did make progress and thats main thing. I got 2 folders of paperwork and 2 shelves of dvds decluttered, two of my hotspots cleared, dishes done and sink shined, my big appliances wiped down, clothes put away and tomorrows clothes laid out and a start on the kitchen floor.

My back is agony I have definitely overdone it. I'm just wanting so much to click my fingers and it be done but I need to step back and remember to pace myself.

So dinner is waiting to go in oven for Glyns return I have even put nice candle on the dining table for us. While I wait I am working on todays babystep which is to get a folder and write the routines so far in it and start my control journal. I am also planning the week to come although I will need to discuss with glyn and confirm plans with family and friends.

I am going to go finish and will check in tomorrow to say how rest of night goes so I can relax.

Oh forgot emails, planner and calander were all checked too! Babysteps officially tackled even if would like sink shining again after dinner.

Day 7 to move forward or not

After I never got dishes done or my sink shined last night I considered not moving on with the next babystep perhaps giving in altogether.

I know this isn't the way, I really do. But with any set back quiting always seems to be my first thought.

My partner was heading out so knew I would have no help but figured first things first. Get dressed to the shoes. Before I know it I'm ready my beds made and curtains open and I'm having bite to eat.

I know if just sat for too long I wouldn't move so I asked on one of my chat groups bout doing a game. Yesterdays dishes needed done, dining table needed cleared, washing needed put on, dry clothes folded, email and planner to read. Plus swishing and swiping the bathroom. I got this done and cleared the bunkers, beside my chair and put rubbish out.

I was in agony and needed to rest but I didn't want to do nothing so I decided to cross stitch that way I was good way to relax but still be productive. 

Glyn (my partner) made dinner and just as was goin to eat others were coming online and wanted a game. I was just going to call it and not to anything but decided to pick things needing done that I could mainly do sitting watching tv.

So my list consisted of decluttering 3 carrier bags, a folder of paperwork,  getting sorted for bed and of course shining my sink. More success as it was all done.

Day 7 was getting clothes looked out for tomorrow something I have mainly been doing anyway. So I did this as I was getting ready for bed.

I also made sure everything dry was folded and taken upstairs, though not put away as no light in spare room at moment. I also put all todays clothes and few bits partner had lying else where was put in the washer for in the morning.

So even though I wasnt sure this morning I realised I need to keep trying to get what I can done. I feel better for it and tonight I cant wait to see what day 8 brings.

Day 6 slip ups happen

After yesterday doin so much i knew today was going to be difficult. I woke up few times during the night and morning in agony. When i woke i couldn't move.

I eventually managed to get up and dressed to shoes as I was due to go to partners today. I also made my bed and opened my curtains.

Day 6 is about putting out your hotspots. That is an area that we dump things and leave them there even though they don't belong. It can be anywhere. My main was is beside my bed and this morning the unit was piled. So I set my timer for the 2 minutes that was stated and cleared it off putting the items back where they belonged.

I had already packed most of the items yesterday apart from my planner which I always check same time as my emails, so dond that quickly and packed it as well as my phone charger.

Papa had to wait on gran before could drive me down so I decided to use the time for me time cross stitching. I am adding this to my routines as it has been getting abandoned. Just under an hour and half later I put away and packed it to come with me. My papa has rearranged until tomorrow so got taxi.

I got to partners and nothing had been done I was starting to lag. The washing machine and drier were loaded but not on so i quickly switched them on and with his help unpacked the shopping and bits i brought down.

I desperately needed a break and with a few phone calls i made sitting on the couch i knew that there was no way i could move.

I got dinner made from me and took more painkillers before coming to bed. Partner was going out so I know be disturbed so making most of what I can. But it does give me a "failure" as dinner dishes not done and sink is not shined.

I know when I talk to others I shouldn't be hard on myself and certainly wouldn't class as failure for them. However we tend to be so much more judgemental of ourselves. I remind myself like flylady has being saying to turn the negative into positive. So far I'm repeating to myself even though I was too sore to complete today I will rest so I am able to do so tomorrow.

Rest time it is. Hopefully day 7 can be more successful, wish me luck!

Day 5 social butterfly?

So I am on day 5 of the flylady babysteps and again today I had to visit family. Made my getting dressed to the shoes easier as knew needed to for going out.

After got dressed though I opened curtains and stripped the bed. Didnt have time to wash or put fresh bedding on but least I know I will when get back.

Had to come back by 1pm as my shopping was being delivered. Get back and find that theres a delay with it though. So threw laundy straight into the washing and thought should get to work.

I had been asked for a couple of recipes so I ransacked my room trying to find pulling out alot of my books and realised I needed to finish organising them onto my cozi app.

I done a couple onto app then made the bed up before Shopping arrived. Thankfully not too much after scheduled time and got that all put away.

I then made bite to eat and though I was tired but knew wanted to get few things done.

The lovely ladies on my flylady group chat were goin to have a game of bingo. I basically make the list of 6 and someone else tells me the order to do it in. Only 15 minutes at a time.

Mine was to add some recipes to cozi, put any dry washing away, check my emails and planner reading flylady message, cleared up the floor (mess and piled with recipes) and packing my stuff to my partners at weekend. The last thing was todays babystep which was turning negatives thoughts to positives.

This is not something I'm good at but I made challenge them think of 3 things heres what I came up with:

1. I'm useless - I might not manage much but I can do something

2. I will never finish it all - I might not finish it but I can at least make progress

3. I'm so lazy - I do what I can when I'm fit enough to do it

I managed all the others on list too. I had left out a quick ready made pasta bake for dinner and into the oven while I had a break.

Friend asked for another quick game with dinner in oven I agreed to call. I played clothes out for tomorrow then I ate on the 2nd call. I then soaked lunch n dinner dishes and ran my bath.

My dishes have just been done and sink is shiny. All steps so far completed again. Plus extra!

Signing off for the day and cant wait to see what day 6 will bring.

Day 4 Out for a change

Hope everyones day been well. Today was success for babysteps I got up and dressed to my shoes as i had planned to see family because of yesterday i knew i would.

After dressed food was required so ate then read todays messages from flylady. I also made the bed and opened my curtains.

Was then sorting my stuff for my mums I lift the pillow to find my ebook and a huge spider is crawling across it. Being big scardy cat and being in shock I throw the pillow back down and run to hall. Thankfully roommate still in and quickly put it outside.

I packed up stuff to go to mums. Todays mission was to write my 3 steps on post its and put somewhere visable. I have chose my bedroom mirror. Then had some lunch and then done dishes and shined my sink!

After mums I always go to my grans who makes me dinner so that the 4 for the day.

Yay me I'm on a roll!

So early to bed for me as out again to see my papa this time. Hopefully doesn't effect my babystep onward to day 5.

Day 3 time to explore

So made it back today even though I went to bed bit miserable that the dishes after dinner weren't done. But when I got up this morning partner had already washed them so all i needed to do was rinse it out n give it a wipe so was shiny again!

Day 3 is about completing both day 1 and 2 again as well as exploring the webpage. Well dressed I managed and knew i would as i was going back to my own house.

Home to mine was bit if challenge though as when I left I was still in depressed state and hadn't don't my dishes or my laundry.

So got my laundry straight in the washer and ran the sink. Had quick bite to eat then washed all the dishes before shining the sink. Another check. Felt better knowing was done and unpacked the few bits brought up with me before hanging my washed clothes up to dry and laying clothes out for tomorrow.

I was suppose to go to mums but had dozed off feeling awful and head pounding. Will message and try rearrange.

In meantime I decided takeaway for dinner so wont have dishes after and go to bed early. While I wait for it I am have been through the webpage and I am goin to listen to todays YouTube video I was recommended for babysteps by Diane in Denmark after finish this.

Dinner in bed with tv and early night will be after that so I can make sure can get up and going for Day 4. Wish me luck! 😆

Babysteps day 2

So day one went as planned and dishes were done after my dinner along with another wipe down. So pleased when went to bed and knew was lovely and clean. There was dishes this morning though when got up as we ended up having toast later in bed but still looked great.

Day 2 of Flylady means getting dressed to shoes. This for some might seem silly or second nature especially if working out of the home. But I know there must be others like me who are disabled and at home all day or are stay at home mums. I'm hoping that they will understand that when there is no where to go that you just dont see the point in getting dressed or for me a lot of the time the pain for no reason just doesn't seem worth it.

Let me tell you though when I done before this really did help. Especially the lace up shoes. It made me feel more motivated to get things done in house. It also emotionally made me feel better my mental health improves when I make this effort. So although it had falling away I know this will help so heres hoping from today I can stick to it.

So getting dressed to shoes is about getting fully ready including looking after yourself by washing, brushing teeth and doin your hair. As it's been a while this took a little longer to get those knots out this morning but I did it.

A few months ago I also bought two sets of indoor lace up shoes as my landlord and roommate prefers no shoes in the house I needed something for when at home. I figured to make sure habit was the same I should pick up another set for partners as well.

Now you dont need to buy anything just find a comfy pair from your closet. These can be cleaned up and worn indoors only too or if happy with shoes inside anything will work. I had already done clear out before I done this but my 2 pairs of lace up rubber shoes cost only £8. I will say make sure they are comfy as they are on for the day! The lace up part makes it so your not likely to kick them off everytime you sit down too but that again  is optional for you.

So today I dug out my indoor shoes and got them on as soon as got out of bed and dressed. Big pat on the back for myself there.

Now my daily decluttering theres so much to choose from where to start. Well as October for flylady they focus on getting rid of paper clutter I thought great idea. That's why done 4 of the folders from yesterday but I have so much more to get done so into the cupboard I go.

I only managed to get through 1 small folder but better than nothing. I have been feeling ill all day though and so went to bed early.

Due to going up as early I didn't get dinner dishes and sink shined. Only day 2 and already feel behind. But it wont stop me trying on day 3, hopefully I am feeling better.

I'm Back

Ok so I had a terrible day a week ago and took to my bed. I done no housework and barely ate. Depression took a hold.

Gave my self a shake yesterday after visiting my friend and decided to start again Monday. 

Then I remembered the do it now! That Flylady is so fond of and know to be true. So I started from Day 1 babysteps today. That is to shine your sink! 

As not been at partners all week there was dishes and bits in sink deep clean required. He helped do the previous dishes before I got up. After lunch I done todays dishes and filled the sink with water and bleach. Cleaned out whole sink and draining board rinsed and went over with my spray bottle of cif including the faucets and round the edges with toothbrush!

So pleased I managed the first step and had planned to leave it there but partner pulled stuff out of cupboard in his hallway and so i decided to declutter as i can do that sitting down.

Today i have a black bag full of jackets n few shoes, carrier full of cleaning supplies (empty/ones dont use) and a pile of paperwork for the bin.

Heres hoping can keep the sink clean by doing the dishes straight after dinner.

Seems strange and until Flylady I wouldn't have believed it. However really makes a difference getting up to a shiny sink!